Hypnosis for Jealousy
Strengthen Love and Trust
Experiencing jealousy at various stages of life and in romantic relationships is, generally speaking, completely natural and normal. It is when jealousy becomes excessive, pathological or the main theme of the relationship that things become problematic and very harmful. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy are powerful and effective methods to treat excessive jealousy, envy, resentment and other negative feelings stemming from a lack of connection and trust.
How to recognize jealousy
One of the most common fears for people in relationships is losing their partner or being abandoned. Certainly, it is good to feel something at the thought of losing our partner, since another human being sharing their lives in the most intimate way with us is not to be taken for granted. A protective fear of losing our partner can help us to be more attentive, to value the relationship highly and also to invest in the relationship. Excessive jealousy, however, is something else and of a different nature. It can disregard the freedom and agency of our partner and step over many boundaries of respect. When we begin to restrict and patronize our partners, the basis for a healthy relationship begins to deteriorate until it is destroyed..
Excessive jealousy manifests itself in people through different physical and psychological symptoms:
When jealousy is intense, there can be physical symptoms similar to those of anxiety and panic: nausea, sweaty hands, racing heart, shallow breathing, crying spells, tension, confusion, shivering and dizziness. Jealousy can also lead to insomnia and other sleep disorders. It is not uncommon for panic attacks to accompany excessive jealousy.
Strong feelings of jealousy are often very difficult to endure for those affected. Restlessness, insomnia, racing thoughts, concentration difficulties, and obsessive thoughts of being betrayed or abandoned can occur. It can be difficult to break the downward spiral of thoughts. Affected people describe low self-esteem and feeling insecure. Often the fear of not being good enough is intense, as is the fear of being left for someone else.
Heal old wounds and let go of the fear
Feelings of jealousy can sometimes become so intense that they completely paralyze those affected and significantly influence their daily lives. Some individuals react with withdrawal while others might react with aggression. When absorbed in feelings of jealousy and fear, an appropriate reaction and conscious, constructive behavior is hardly possible. Affected individuals get more and more involved in their jealousy and put a heavy burden on themselves and their partners. Clients often report that many discussions have taken place in the relationship and yet no solution has been found. The jealousy and accompanying fears are described as overwhelming, leaving hardly any room to enjoy other things in the relationship. Hypnosis helps to break this cycle and to help individuals connect deeply, to heal injuries, disappointments and to let go of unreasonable demands on the partner.
Is jealousy a problem in my relationship?
The following questions may be the first clues as to whether you are suffering from excessive jealousy:
Do you experience your mind constantly being taken over by feelings of jealousy and obsession?
Do you experience nausea paired with flashing images of your partner being unfaithful?
Are you constantly afraid of being cheated on or even abandoned?
Do you check your partner's phone compulsively to go through their messages and look for clues that they are unfaithful?
Do you avoid certain situations or people with your partner because you don’t want feelings of jealousy to return again?
If you can answer yes to most of these questions and feel restricted in your daily life, you should seek therapeutic advice. You may be experiencing pathological jealousy. Please note that questions are always asked broadly, so it is possible that people who are not affected by pathological jealousy may receive a positive result. Not everyone who experiences jealousy has pathological jealousy.
Chronic jealousy and the fear of being abandoned is a danger for the relationship
Statistically, it is more women who are jealous, as can be seen in the following study. The study examined reactions to secretly messaging others behind a partner’s back. However, the numbers for jealousy in men are also significant. What both genders have in common is that difficulties in the relationship increase, while 12% state that jealousy was the main trigger for a relationship crisis or breakup.
Own representation, data source: https://de.statista.com/ question/title: When do you get jealous? Source Parship, Survey by Parship, Published by Parship, Origin reference parship.co.uk, Publication date September 2018
, accessed 2020-09-06
Own representation, Data source: https://de.statista.com/ Questioning/title: What do you think was the main trigger for the relationship crisis? Source Parship, Survey by Innofact, Published by Parship, Origin reference parship.de, Publication date May 2016
, retrieved on 06.09.2020
How does jealousy arise in relationships?
Jealousy arises through a mixture of different feelings and beliefs. The most important ones are fear, lack of trust and above all, low self-esteem. Jealousy is often accompanied by envy, anger or resentment - and it can, in the worst case, turn into hatred. To prevent this from happening, it is important to recognize and work through jealousy at an early stage. Where do the feelings of jealousy come from? What is behind the lack of trust? And what role does fear play in all of this?
Justified jealousy in cases of cheating and betrayal
Of course, jealousy is not always unjustified. There are also partners who cheat, friends who betray each other, colleagues who are favored. But is jealousy the right answer to this, when we think about it rationally? No! Because when you are in a relationship in which one of the partners exhibits jealousy consistently - no matter how understandable it may be - it will not help you. Jealousy and fear keep us busy and prevent us from reacting appropriately, from a place that reflects our true intentions.
How do feelings of jealousy affect the relationship?
The longer a relationship is strained because of jealousy, the greater the suffering for the couple involved. Jealousy can spread like a poison that takes all the lighthearted, joyful moments that once were part of the relationship into dark, uneasy and heavy feelings. Those who are chronically jealous do not always need bad experiences or legit reasons to feel jealous. Unfortunately, in most cases, jealousy is created and perpetuated by the person who struggles to question and process individual perceptions and truths. This can have devastating consequences.
The consequences of jealousy include:
Decreasing confidence due to repeated feelings of insecurity and mistrust.
Increased feelings of helplessness, loss of concentration and difficulty in engaging with other thoughts and situations.
Relationship and marital crises, sometimes leading to separation and divorce.
Behavioral changes due to social withdrawal or increasing aggression.
Increased health risks due to "self-medication" (drugs, alcohol, prescription medication).
Jealousy and secondary conditions
Jealousy can be the offset to many secondary conditions. Starting with feelings of insecurity, sleeplessness and concentration difficulties, excessive jealousy not only causes the relationship to suffer, but it can also lead to difficulties at work. Those affected are often persistently in a state of anxiety, feeling tense and can hardly relax and let go of their obsessive thoughts. The desire to control the relationship, to control the partner and to cross personal boundaries is high. Cyclical thoughts, sadness, hopelessness, exhaustion and depression can develop. A separation or a breakup might bring relief to many at first, but the problems usually reoccur again in the next relationship, as the roots of the jealousy were never processed properly.
Jealousy hypnosis treatment
Overcome jealousy, insecurity and underlying fears with hypnosis
Under hypnotic trance, you have the possibility to look at your situation completely objectively. You will observe and acknowledge your feelings and behavior without feelings of shame or guilt threatening to weigh you down. This creates the space you need to change your behavior and to let go of your fears. Quite often jealousy begins to decrease as soon as the underlying fears are processed in hypnosis. Inner resources are strengthened, old injuries can be consciously and subconsciously healed. This has many positive effects on different areas of life and especially on romantic relationships. It creates the opportunity and space for you to encounter your partner anew from a place of trust, openness and connection - without the heaviness of fear and jealousy.
Become more secure and strengthen trust through hypnosis
Do you feel unattractive, undesirable or uninteresting? You look at your partner and can't imagine that the person you admire so much would want to be with someone like you. And maybe he or she would rather be with someone else? If you have these kinds of thoughts about your beloved, then the probability that you will lose your love is unfortunately very high. Because if you don't build your self-esteem and learn to see value and worth in yourself, you will never be able to enter a trusting, loving connection. Hypnosis helps you to prevent this from happening. First of all, it brings you calmness and teaches you how to control your thoughts and feelings. This alone creates more confidence and courage. Additionally, hypnosis will get you in touch with your subconscious and begin the therapeutic process on two levels: consciously during conversation and subconsciously during trance. You will get to know yourself and discover strengths within yourself that you had forgotten about. This knowledge and clarity will help you in all areas of life, including your relationship. You will no longer be tormented by jealousy, build a healthier relationship to yourself and rediscover emotional balance and joy.